Finding Common Ground
Family Mediation
When families experience break-ups, it can be a difficult and painful time for everyone, especially when children are involved. In these situations, people often turn to costly solicitors without exploring more constructive options.
If you are going through a divorce or separation our family mediation service is here to help. We assist in reaching agreements on important matters such as financial arrangements and plans for your children.
Family mediation is a process where both parties, guided by a mediator, come together to discuss and resolve issues related to children and finances following a separation or divorce. This approach is typically faster, more affordable, and less stressful than going through the legal system, providing a smoother path to resolving family matters.
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Mediation Process
We begin by meeting with each of you individually for an initial session known as a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting). During this meeting, we explain the mediation process and gather details about your situation. Each session lasts up to 60 minutes and is conducted online via Zoom.
Following these initial meetings, you will each be able to ask any questions you may have and decide whether to proceed with mediation.
If you both choose to move forward, we will schedule a joint mediation session lasting up to 90 minutes. These sessions can be held online via Zoom or in person. Depending on your needs, most people require 1-3 sessions to address child arrangements and 3-4 sessions to additionally work through family matters.
Throughout the process, our experienced mediators will guide you, ensuring that all relevant areas are thoroughly considered and that you are aware of the available options.
While proposals made in mediation are not legally binding, many individuals choose to take the mediator’s written summary of the agreement to a solicitor afterwards, to draft a financial consent order or separation agreement.
Why Choose Us?
Mediation Surrey is a local not-for-profit charity and works with families across the county. As there is now a legal requirement to attend at least an initial meeting with a mediator our services are available to you. All family mediation services aren’t the same however, so here are some of the benefits of using us.
- Cost-effective: Our mediation is generally much less expensive than using a solicitor and going through the court system.
- Faster resolution:Â Our mediation typically leads to quicker agreements, helping you resolve issues without lengthy legal delays.
- Less stressful: Our process is less adversarial and more collaborative, reducing stress for both parties, especially when children are involved.
- More control: You have greater control over the outcomes, as decisions are made by you and your partner rather than imposed by a court.
- Focus on cooperation: Our mediation encourages open communication and cooperation, which can lead to more amicable long-term relationships.
- Child-centred: Our process prioritises the well-being of children, helping parents focus on what’s best for them.
- Flexible: Your mediation sessions can be scheduled at times that are convenient for you, including evenings.
Our Fees
Meetings
- MIAM (60 minutes) – £110 per person
- Joint Mediation Session (90 minutes) – £180 per person
Supporting Paperwork
- Memorandum of Understanding for Finance and Property – £120 per person
- Open Financial Statement – £60 per person
- Statement of Child Arrangements – £60 per person
We support the use of the Government’s Mediation Voucher scheme, but we do not offer Legal Aid Mediation. For further information on Legal Aid visit www.gov.uk/legal-aid.
Questions you may have
What issues can be resolved through family mediation?
Family mediation can address a variety of issues, including:
- Divorce or separation arrangements
- Child custody and visitation schedules
- Child support and spousal support
- Division of property and assets
- Parenting plans
- Communication and co-parenting strategies
Is family mediation legally binding?
Mediation itself is not legally binding. However, the agreements reached in mediation can be made legally binding if both parties agree and the agreement is formalised into a consent order or a legally recognised document by a court.
How long does family mediation take?
The duration of family mediation depends on the complexity of the issues and the willingness of the parties to cooperate. Some mediations may be resolved in a few sessions, while others may take longer.
What is the role of the mediator?
The mediator is a neutral facilitator who helps guide discussions, encourages open communication, and assists the parties in exploring possible solutions. The mediator does not take sides or make decisions for the parties.
What if we can’t reach an agreement in mediation?
If an agreement cannot be reached, you may choose to pursue other options, such as litigation. The mediator can help clarify unresolved issues and offer alternatives, but the final decision rests with the individuals.
How can I prepare for family mediation?
- Gather relevant documents (financial records, custody agreements, etc.).
- Think about your goals and what you hope to achieve.
- Be open to compromise and collaboration.
Can mediation help with post-divorce issues?
Yes, mediation can be used to address and resolve issues that arise after a divorce, such as modifications to child custody arrangements, child support, or spousal support.
What happens after an agreement is reached in mediation?
Once an agreement is reached, the mediator may draft a memorandum of understanding, mediation agreement or parenting plan. This document can then be reviewed by your solicitor and, if agreed upon, can be formalised into a legally binding agreement or court order.
What can we help with?
Community Mediation
Resolve disputes with neighbours and within your community, promoting harmony and understanding.
Intergenerational Mediation
Address and heal conflicts between family members restoring relationships across generations.
Support Coaching
One-on-one coaching to help you manage personal challenges and develop effective coping strategies.
All our services are free for Surrey residents, except Family Mediation which has affordable fees.